Do you know who this woman is? She was the EXPERT in all things manners, social events, and etiquette. She was around WAY before Martha Stewart. Her name is the definition of Proper. She is Emily Post. If you want to do things the proper way, you do them the Emily Post Way. Obviously some of her words of wisdom are a wee outdated since she was born in the late 1800s, so let me give you up to date knowledge.
So why Etiquette? It's your wedding right? You should be able to do what you want, right? Yes..... to an extent. "Etiquette helps us know how to treat others. ... Etiquette makes people comfortable and at ease, it shows that we value and respect others. Etiquette promotes kindness, consideration, and humility. "
ENGAGEMENT
Follow family traditions of asking for your significant other's hand in marriage. If all the men in their family have asked the father for his blessing, it would be a good idea to follow suit.
You're Engaged! Yeah! Avoid broadcasting it all over social media until you have told your parents and the other really significant people in your life. Once you have told all them, them share away in the cyber world.
INVITES
Everyone on your guest list should get an invitation.
If you plan on having a destination wedding or having a wedding where most of your guests will be traveling, send a save the date way in advanced. The save the date can be very basic, just your names and the date and where is great. Keep save the dates, simple and to the point. Shouldn't be used in place of a formal wedding invitation.
A formal invitation with more specific information should be sent out 4-8 weeks before your wedding date.
The formal invitation should include both of your names, your parents names, date, ceremony location, and reception location. If you include a card where your guests have to respond, include an envelope with postage and the address where to send it to, so they can send it back to you. A way to bypass this is the the RSVP go to a designated email address.
Give guests at least 15 days between the invitation’s arrival and the RSVP deadline to figure out the logistics.
You should NOT have your wedding registry on your formal wedding invitation, but that doesn't mean you should ignore it completely. Instead, include the link to your website (not directly to your registry) on an information insert, and/or include it on your bridal shower invitations.
BRIDAL SHOWER
Bridal showers give the bride's nearest and dearest a chance to meet and bond, theres usually games and food, and gifts for the couple to start their life together. You "shower" her with gifts, get it?
Showers are generally held from a couple of months to a week or two before the wedding.
The maid of honor, good friend, aunts, and/or cousins of the bride typically host the bridal shower. The guest list includes family, close friends and attendants of the bride; the flower girl and her mom; any sisters of the bride and groom; and the bride's and groom's grandmothers. As a rule, any guests invited to the shower must also be invited to the wedding. Traditionally a shower shouldn't be thrown by the bride's immediate relatives, like her mother, future mother-in-law, or sister, since it may leave an impression that they're asking for gifts.
the hostess should be on hand at the beginning of the shower—alongside the bride—to meet guests as they enter the party.
I can go on and on, but I won't today because I'd rather be taking or editing pictures aka my real job.
Overall take away from this post is if you are worried about etiquette, go research for yourself the dos and dont's on the subject you are wondering about. If you don't really care, no worries, it's your wedding do what you want.
If you want more information on Wedding Etiquette, hit the internet. Great resources are Martha Stewart Weddings, Emily Post, and Brides.com
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